THE SEMBLANCE OF IMPORTANCE

My best friend said this to me, the other day . . .

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"You don't miss him. You miss the semblance of importance."

 Hmmmm Think about it. 

That person (he) made me feel important. 

He made me feel valued. He made me attach my worth to his . . . his community. He made me feel forgiven and accepted. He made me feel a part of a team. He made me. . . 

But

No one can "make you" right? We allow.

What's interesting is how we allow ourselves to be swept away by people who didn't give a fuck about us before we reconnected or moved back to that city. Our talents just became seen again. Did we matter before? Were we respected before? 

Did we have worth before?

The answer is: YES! 

He didn't make me feel important. I AM IMPORTANT. I just allowed him to be my validation. 

Isn't that what we do. We allow, in order to feel validated, in order to feel . . . 

It builds our self-esteem. It gives us respect on another level. We become seen. 

Yet,

We've always been that strong, talented, purposeful being. We just lost it - that part of ourselves. 

This is being honest with ourselves...We matter, 

BUT 

When he said we didn't or showed that we didn't. We were blocked . . . 

We lost ourselves. 

We believed in our inadequacy. 

We followed that narrative. 

Why? We lost ourselves because of that semblance of importance.

We have to get our power back. We have to say to ourselves . . . 

I HAVE VALUE. I AM IMPORTANT. 

~ deeply out ❤