TRUE CHANGE is a false!

Do we really change?

Do people realllllllly change?

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We all want to say YES, but if we're speaking about someone else . . . It's an immediate answer: NO

Esp if it's something that we don't agree with or something that made us mad or hurt our feelings. 

BUT when we reflect that question back to ourselves . . . the answer is of course

Y E S 

And we want EVERYBODY and dey mama to know that WE HAVE CHANGED.

We don't post as often on social media or disable our pages for a while . . . to make people miss us (or at least HOPE that they do) 

You'll take your account off PRIVATE (IF you did that, like me) OR come back with a vengence! NEW LOOK. NEW VID. NEW BODY. NEW FRIENDS (not really "friends" yet, but its some people that you met on a random day and just chat it up with . . . ) You know we all low key want to make people jealous (our haters) or the friend we haven't talked to in a while. 

BUT! 

DON'T FORGET . . . change is A p r o c e s s! 

We alllll know that, BUT when we think others haven't changed . . . we're always trying to prove that we did (you and I). You got a new place? You gon tell people you never talk to. Just furnished that place? Oh hell yes! "They" need to know YOU GOT MONEY coming in! Right?

All these scenarios are falsity false false!

Did they really change? Don't ask them or test them. Watch them and experience them. 

Did YOU really change? NO. 

Why do I say that?

Because most times . . . that urge to show off our "change" or go silent for a while  . . . turns out to be something much much deeper. 

I will use myself for example . . .

my "going black" or disabling my accounts is usually because I'm "going thru it ya'll!" lol

Trying to figure this life shit out! 

Wondering why I made the mistakes that I made. 

A career dilemma

Etc. 

So what I'm saying is: Yes, Change is a process! BUT Self Care and Insecurity is involved in that process of change. Let's start with Insecurity . . . we all have it! However, roll with me for a min . . . 

That Insecurity can come from a lack of Self Care. 

So think about how much Self Care is a priority in your life and let's (me as well) nic pic to find out where that insecurity stems from and HOW to give Self Care to that area in particular! 

I'm with you on this journey, so let's (you and I) find the type of Self Care that contributes to our CHANGE! 

~ deeply out ❤

photo cred: Kayden Nunziato

movers: dionna & Jada 

orginally written 7/30/21, 4pm